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By Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, David Maxfield, Ron McMillan and Al Switzler
This book is a step-by-step guide to breaking longstanding bad habits from the authors of Crucial Conversations. It was very interesting to listen to, and much of what it says makes sense. I have never read (or listened to) anything by these authors before, but my husband has had Crucial Conversation training at work. He had spoken favorably of the training, so I was curious to see what I thought about these authors ideas.
One of the things I liked about the book is that it makes it very clear that will power is not enough. Too many people attribute their failures to lack of will power, but this is simplistic. Willpower alone is rarely enough to break an addiction or cause you to give up a bad habit. The book describes the six sources of influence you need to recognize and that will help you find success in making changes. For example one of the sources of influence is “Turn Accomplices into Friends” The books describes specific ways you can get your friends and acquaintances working with you, not against you. They provide detailed examples and even examples of conversations you can initiate.
I appreciate the fact that the authors do not promise instant or easy change. They explain that you can expect to fail, and the important thing to do is learn from your failures. This kind of encouragement is what I need, since like many people, my reaction to failure is more likely to be giving up than re-grouping. The last section of the book gives specific change plans and examples for the most common things people want to change: work issues, weight loss, financial problems, addictions and relationships.
I am glad I listened to this book and I feel like I learned from it. I have a much better idea now how to influence myself to make changes that will stick. The book was read by Joseph Grenny, one of the authors, and he did a fine job of reading it. I think the book would be good in either audio book or print format. It would be easier to go back and look something up in a print book, but I think the audio book is more likely to inspire and motivate.
Disclosure: I received a copy of this book for review, all opinions are my own.